Strengths and Weaknesses

If I were to ask you about your own strengths and weaknesses what would the list look like? This is something that I decided to do recently, and I discovered interesting things. I made my list and tried to be as honest with myself as possible. This can be difficult to do. You don’t want to admit things that you are bad at, but it is important that you are honest with yourself, so you know what needs improvement. My lists are as follows.

Strenghts	Weaknesses
Good work ethic Team player trustworthy reliable  accountable people person humble cares for others open minded	Can be too passive doesn't follow through can be forgetful Get overwhelmed

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What made this more interesting for me was that I took the time to ask other people that know me well what they thought my strengths and weaknesses were. Believe it or not, most people don’t want to tell you what they think your weaknesses are even when you genuinely ask them. the responses from friends and family though made me think more about myself and how I am perceived to others. I want to make it clear that the opinions of others don’t matter as long as you are staying true to yourself. This is something that I have working on for a while and can be difficult. However, the people that did participate answers are as follows.

Strengths ·         People person                               ·         Encouraging ·         Creative ·         Caring ·         Able to handle jokes/criticism ·         Will do anything for other people ·         Willing to try new things ·         Genuine when communicating ·         Leader ·         Positive attitude ·         Ability to adapt ·         Willingness to work ·         Work hard to provide for family and others ·         Good friend ·         Smart ·         In their words “badass driver”

Weaknesses         Forgetful         Don’t follow through         Get sidetracked      Not being confident         I don’t posture myself as the leader I am     Shy/introverted     Does stupid things every now and then      Let people walk over me      Communication (didn’t tell my cousin I was getting married. She found out through Facebook)

 

 

            Half of the people I asked wouldn’t say what my weaknesses were. On one hand I get it, but this is for research! The point is that other people see the good qualities in you that you might overlook. Although most are ones that I believe to be true, the leader part is one that stood out as crazy to me. I never have thought of myself as a leader. I like to be in the background and assess the situation and go from that point. I don’t really like having the decisions fall on me, not because I think I will fail, but because I don’t like being the person that any potential hostility can be thrown at. This is something that I need to work on however because I do want to be able to be a leader. I believe that leadership is something that can open many doors in my life.

 Some of the weaknesses that others pointed out took me a little by surprise too. I know that I don’t like conflict, but I never took the step back to realize that I have let people walkover throughout parts of my life. I need to stand up for myself and as Madea would say “speak my damn mind. Hell”. I know that I am forgetful, and I need to work on that. If any of you have tips or tricks to increase memory however, I am all ears!! Without fail I will forget at least one thing at the grocery store every time I go.

As you can see, parts of my lists for myself match with what others have said. The others list however, touch on points that I would overlook on most occasions. It brings more awareness to myself and the things that I know I am doing well at and the things that I need to improve on. If you are feeling up for it, try this out with your friends and family as well. You may be surprised with what people say (if they truly say what they feel). This isn’t something that you should get upset about either. take others opinion as just that, opinions. If you feel it is valid and you want to do something with that information, then that is totally up to you.

 

Much Love and God Bless